How to improve your life...

Randy Pausch 47 yrs old, was a computer Sc. lecturer from Mellon University. He died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book "The last lecture" before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind !

 

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.

 May all his readers be blessed by his insight !

 

POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

 

Personality:

1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

 

Community:

1. Call your family often
2. Each day give something good to others
3. Forgive everyone for everything
4. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
5. Try to make at least three people smile each day
6. What other people think of you is none of your business
7. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

1. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
2. GOD heals everything
3. Do the right things
4. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
5. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
6. The best is yet to come
7. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
8. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
9. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.
10. While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Remember,

 

GOOD THINGS ARE FOR US TO SHARE.....!!!!!!

कवी नारायण सुर्वे यांची एक खूप छान कविता..

   हंबरून वासराले चाटती जवा गाय

तवा मले तिच्यामंदी दिसती माझी माय
आयाबाया सांगत व्हत्या व्हतो जवा तान्हा
दुस्काळात मायेच्या माजे आटला व्हता पान्हा
पिठामंदी पानी टाकून पाजत जाय
तवा मले पिठामंदी दिसती माझी माय
कन्या-काट्या येचायाला माय जाई रानी
पायात नसे वहान तिच्या फिरे अनवानी
काट्याकुट्यालाही तिचं नसे पाय
तवा मले काट्यामंदी दिसती माझी माय
बाप माझा रोज लावी मायच्या मागं टुमनं
बास झालं शिक्षान आता घेऊ दे हाती काम
शिकुनश्यानं कुठं मोठ्ठा मास्तर हुनार हायं
तवा मले मास्तरमंदी दिसतो माझी माय
दारु पिऊन मायेले मारी जवा माझा बाप
थरथर कापे आन लागे तिले धाप
कसायाच्या दावनीला बांधली जशी गाय
तवा मले गायीमंदी दिसती माझी माय
बोलता बोलता येकदा तिच्या डोळा आलं पानी
सांग म्हने राजा तुझी कवा दिसंल रानी
भरल्या डोल्यान कवा पाहील दुधावरची साय
तवा मले सायीमंदी दिसती माझी माय
म्हनून म्हंतो आनंदानं भरावी तुझी वटी
पुना येकदा जलम घ्यावा तुजे पोटी
तुझ्या चरनी ठेवून माया धरावं तुझं पाय
तवा मले पायामंदी दिसती माझी माय‍

FIVE TIPS TOP CEO'S HAVE FOR YOUNG LEADERS.

WORTH ADOPTING IN OUR DAY TO DAY LIFE .


1. AMBITION IS A MUST HAVE, BUT DON'T LET IT HURT THOSE AROUND YOU.


By - Adil Zainulbhai MD McKinsey India




2. THERE IS NO NEED TO HIDE YOUR FAILURE, BUT YOU DO NEED TO FLAUNT WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNT FROM IT.


By Harsh Mariwala Chairman & MD Marico.




3. INTELLECT IS GOOD, BUT COMBINE IT WITH HUMILITY & YOU HAVE AN UNBEATABLE COMBINATION.


By - Nitin Paranjpe CEO Hindustan Unilever




4. GENERALISTS ARE OK, BUT LEADERS DO NEED TO HAVE A CLEARLY DEFINED AREA OF EXTRAORDINARY COMPETENCE.


By - Pramod Bhasin Non Executive VC, Genpact




5. THINK SOCIETY, NOT JUST BUSINESS


By - Kalpana Morparia CEO JP Morgan India.

An Ode to a Soldier....

He was getting old and paunchy


And his hair was falling fast,


And he sat around the family,


Telling stories of the past.




Of a war that he once fought in


And the deeds that he had done,


In his exploits with his buddies;


They were heroes, every one.




And 'tho sometimes to his neighbors


His tales became a joke,


All his buddies listened quietly


For they knew where of he spoke.




But we'll hear his tales no longer,


For ol' Natha Singh has passed away,


And the world's a little poorer


For a Soldier died today.




He won't be mourned by many,


Just his children and his wife.


For he lived an ordinary,


Very quiet sort of life.




He held a job and raised a family,


Going quietly on his way;


And the world won't note his passing,


'Tho a Soldier died today.




When politicians leave this earth,


Their bodies lie in state,


While thousands note their passing,


And proclaim that they were great.




Papers tell of their life stories


From the time that they were young


But the passing of a Soldier


Goes unnoticed, and unsung.



Is the greatest contribution


To the welfare of our land,


Some jerk who breaks his promise


And cons his fellow man?




Or the ordinary fellow


Who in times of war and strife,


Goes off to serve his country


And offers up his life?




The politician's stipend


And the style in which he lives,


Are often disproportionate,


To the service that he gives.




While the ordinary Soldier,


Who offered up his all,


Is paid off with a medal


And a pension, meagre & small..




It is not the politicians


With their compromise and ploys,


Who won for us the freedom


That our country now enjoys.




Should you find yourself in danger,


With your enemies at hand,


Would you really want some Neta,


With his ever waffling stand?




Or would you want a Soldier--


His home, his country, his kin,


Just a common Soldier,


Who would fight to the skin.


He was just a common Soldier,


And his ranks are growing thin,


But his presence should remind us


We may need his like again.


For when countries are in conflict,


We find the Soldier's part


Is to clean up all the troubles


That the politicians start.



If we cannot do him honor


While he's here to hear the praise,


Then at least let's give him homage


At the ending of his days.



Perhaps just a simple headline


In the paper that might say:


"OUR COUNTRY IS IN MOURNING,


A SOLDIER DIED YESTERDAY.."

The benifits of being polite

By : Reena Batra / The Speaking Tree


We all believe in the philosophy that the essence of life is talking. Communicating with others is as necessary as food. If we don’t, we tend to fall ill. Today people are rarely talking.


The art of conversation has almost died down. People just usually sit and chat in their office breaks about things that are not even worth thinking about. Let’s face it; we all are going towards doom where each one of us is talking to pass/kill time. The art of using communication is no more existing. People are concerned about others influence in their lives and not about their influence in others life.


It is an unbelievable thing that an effective communication through polite words can have wonderful impact on you and others lives as well. You can win the hearts of many people, climb the corporate ladder, have promotions but not have wonderful relationship with people around you.


The path to a successful life comes thorough the stairs of politeness. An act of politeness can do wonders that no monetary thing can do. Let us go deep in the art of efficient speaking by these methods.


Talking about ideas and not people
It’s truly said, great minds talk about ideas and small minds talk about people. Politeness is an attitude of life. Talking about ideas heightens your politeness towards innovations and stimulates your mind too. This is effective for the speaker and the listener both. To start talking about people you can breathe out all negative energies about anyone: latest crush, which dress she wears, which perfume she uses, her bad attitude. The idea is that everything you talk about people usually comes negative. This develops a feeling of self love and comparison at all means. You do not value your life as much as you do to others.


Using intellect instead of the tongue
Usually people chatter on at length not worrying about the impact it would have on others. Since people are so occupied in themselves they’d rather talk about themselves only. This instigates them to speak rubbish endlessly. Have you ever thought how much of an impact we can have on others by our words? By trying to use our brains before speaking, we will save others sentiments and preserve a healthy relationship between our near ones.


Avoiding gossip
The one who usually starts a gossip or backbiting about someone does not know that he is the one to have the last laugh. People who start commenting and spreading rumors about others usually end up in a muck of politics and bickering about themselves from the other end. Such people should be avoided at arm’s length. Even listening to gossip is as harmful since the listener had the power to listen to negative communication. This unhealthy gossiping could have been stopped if the listener would have ignored the speaker.


Exchange of compliments
We should not limit our compliment intake be restricted to our close relatives. People like our helpers such as servants, cleaners, house maids are those on whom we can count on. Speaking politely to them will ensure that your day is made. They are the ones who offer your services to make your life comfortable. So we should make endeavors to enrich their lives by complimenting and praising them.


Look for positive things in negative people
We all have negative and positive sides. Nobody on this earth has a squeaky clean nature. We all have flaws, however some people are observed negatively by their rude behavior and we become very judgmental about them putting them in the negative category. We should understand that people who are rude have their own weaknesses. They do not choose to be like that. Frustrations at work or domestic front make them act in this behavior. Such people should be offered more help than others comparatively. Talking politely with them will make a difference in their lives and yours too.


Feel positive about you all the time
Quite often we do not realize that we subconsciously become negative. Pent up emotions and unfulfilled desires make us behave rudely towards others and emit negative radiations from the body. Thus we tend to overreact and become rude and harsh to others in some or the other way. This might demolish the social circle that we have. So politeness in the hearts at all means will result in polite attitude.


Whatever is rested in your heart is bound to come out in the open some or the other day. Make sure you have a prosperous life with a polite attitude and selfless love. This will make you immortal in the hearts of millions as people are going to remember for your polite words and not by your status.


A photographer once clicked a photograph of ex-president of India, Dr. Kalam with a shawl placed on his shoulder. After the photo shoot was over, the photographer rudely took off the shawl and walked off. The President smiled. After being asked about his composed behaviouir, he politely answered that maybe the photographer needed the shawl more than he did, and continued his work.


People with big positions come and go but it is only their humble nature that draws millions of people towards them. Their polite words filled to the brim with modesty and love melt the hearts of even the rudest amongst the crowd. By talking politely to all we can make an impact on others lives.